On January 11th LukE turned three years old. And while I still can’t believe it this may have been one of the less emotional milestones. We’ve been talking about his birthday for months and this year he seemed to “get” what it was all about. He was so excited about balloons and learning how to hold out three fingers. It was so cool to see him so excited and I think that may have eased my “oh my god, my baby is growing up” go to feeling around birthdays.
We had a birthday party at our house with friends and family. Luke loves music and instruments so we had his music teacher come do a music class with the kids. It was wonderful and I think everyone enjoyed the fun.
The lead up to turning three was rough. We had a few weeks here and there of pure hell during the fall. I’m talking about screaming and crying and rebelling and it had me in tears. Looking back I think it may have had something to do with the fact that Luke was needing more independence but obviously not knowing how to express that. We saw a drastic difference once he got his big boy bed and just kinda relaxed a little and let him make some decisions.
Overall Luke is amazing. He’s passionate, driven, emotional, funny, inquisitive, and nurturing. He’s really taken on the big brother role with both Olivia and Matthew. And while there are still fights and arguments over toys and territory I know he loves being a big brother. He’s always asking and saying “is Olivia awake, is Olivia going, I will give one to Olivia.” He will help Olivia take her shoes and jacket off and then say “I’m a big boy!” He talks about what he will teach Matthew in the future and more than once I’ve turned around to see him giving Matthew a paci when he’s crying. I hope as they all age they continue to be close. And I say all this with a sense of pride but please don’t think it’s all good between them. We still deal with pushing and grabbing, etc but we’ve noticed he now asks before taking something from Olivia and his aggressive behavior is lessening. Thank you Daniel the Tiger!! “Stop, stop, stop its okay to be angry! It’s not, not, not okay to hurt someone.”
“Why” is a question we here a bajillion times a day now and it’s wonderful and sometimes annoying. “Mom, it’s dark outside.” “Yes, it is!” “Why?” “Luke it’s time to eat.” “Why?” And I have to admit I have been stumped by his questions several times. I hope he’s always this inquisitive and curious. I also hope he’s learning a lot in the process because I am!
Luke is no longer napping. This was a big adjustment and has led to a lot of tears from us both. I think I’m finally at a point of accepting this and now admit there may be more positives than negatives. He’s doing a great job at staying in his room for “quiet time.” We purchased a toddler clock and have it programmed so he knows when the green light goes on he can leave his room. That green light has more power over him than I ever have. He now often asks “is it quiet time yet?” And will “read” and do puzzles and build with blocks. It’s a restorative time for us both and everything I’ve read says to hang on it quiet time as long as you can. Hoping we can keep it up for another year.
He was in the 86th percentile for height and weight coming in at just under 40 inches and weighing almost 36lbs. He eats really well and his pickiness is lessening. He will now try everything on his plate and he knows he doesn’t have to eat it if he doesn’t like it but it’s important to try. He continues to ask for his smoothie after breakfast which is really cute. Olivia’s even gotten on the smoothie train!
School is going well and I’m so happy with our decision to send him this year. His favorite parts are the art work, playing with play doh, and the singing. The teachers are working on him becoming more independent and exploring every station every day. Apparently he sticks close to the teachers. He is a very attached child.
Luke is extremely active. The child doesn’t stop. He loves to run and dance and ride his bike and scooter. He did soccer in the fall and swim lessons are about to start up again. He’s happiest outdoors so we are looking forward to the end of winter.
We are going through some of the challenges having a “threenager” brings but we are learning to navigate and to avoid a meltdown before it happens. I’m learning what sets him off and have found distraction is still my best friend in a meltdown situation. We don’t assume anything (what color spoon, or cup) and allow him to make the decisions for everyday things. Obviously we don’t let him do whatever he wants but allowing him to feel like he has some power and control is important.
He’s super egocentric and narcissistic and it’s hilarious. “Mom, I’m a good dancer, did you know that?” “Mom, see me spinning, I can do this because I can do what I want.” Looking in the mirror while pooping “mom, I have pretty blue eyes.” Oy vey!
While Luke has always been challenging I see him growing and progressing in a direction that feels positive. I can’t believe my little guy is three years old. Time flies and it makes me sad but it’s also so exciting to see him grow.