Robbed.
When my alarm went off this morning I was in a deep sleep. Not dreaming but in a sleep where it took me a few minutes to realize what the noise was. I leaned out of bed to hurriedly turn the alarm on my phone off so that Walt wouldn’t wake up. I forgot it was plugged into the wall so I reached a little further and then BAM the realization that my son is gone. It hit me, the realization that my life is still scattered on the floor and I need to slowly keep picking up the pieces. This time it was not the thought “I’m not pregnant anymore” or “it’s almost November when he should be arriving” it was the “holy shit I forgot I can’t stretch my torso like this anymore!”
As soon as I got up that little thought turned into bigger and deeper thoughts and “robbed” came to mind.
I was robbed that day. Robbed of my son, robbed of the hope I would have (for the most part) an easy pregnancy, robbed of the joy of seeing my husband hold his first born, robbed of my parents seeing their first grandchild, robbed of ever hearing my first born say mommy or good morning or goodbye, robbed of the ability to labor a child (I will now have to have a scheduled C-section with subsequent pregnancies), robbed of who I once was before I had to experience the death of my child.
Robbed: to take property unlawfully. He was mine. I made him and I would have taken the best care of him but he was taken away from me. Robbed.
I will never be the same person. I can carry on with my life but I am different. There is sadness in my heart that will never go away and a weakness in my bones that will never fully heal. I am me but a new kind of me. I was robbed of my identity.
It’s hard for me to understand that there are ups and downs in this cycle. It’s hard for me to predict my emotions from one hour to the next. It’s hard for me to accept all of this. And while I can be strong sometimes I don’t want to be.
The next month is going to be really hard because I had my property unlawfully taken away from me.